The posts lately on this board have been from males

The posts lately on this board have been from males as well as females in regards to custody and “help” in making things work out.

It’s obvious that lack of maturity and self control goes both ways just as the suggested birth control goes two ways.

Age doesn’t negate maturity nor does time. If you divorce only to rush into another relationship without taking the time to get to know yourself first – how can you expect someone else to stand living with you when you can’t stand living with yourself?

I read the stories the different parents post here and know for a fact that there’s always – ALWAYS – two sides to a story….and that a story is only as good as the perception that renders it.

I wish there were easy answers and easy solutions.

My twelve year old son has ask to come live with my wife and myself. he needs more father and son time, and has gotten tired of the living conditions at his mothers. we are going to go file papers tomorrow.

any helpful ideas to maybe swing the balance in our favor. if they did a home inspection it would be no contest. any help would be appreciated.


You don’t say how far your wife lives from you

You don’t say how far your wife lives from you. If she is relatively nearby, why go thru the expense and trauma of a custody hearing if your wife will let you be more involved in your son’s life. He doesn’t need a custody battle – he just wants to be with you more.

You say the home inspection will render this a no contest. Guess again.

This forum and the newspapers are full of reports of children living in absolute filth and still being returned to the parents. Your son needs to be able to articulate, in a manner appropriate to a 12 yo, why he feels it is better for him to be with the father than with the mother. You can’t coach him – the judge has seen it all – it has to come from the kids heart.

And remember, mom isn’t likely to give her son up without a fight. If she promises to improve living conditions, the judge may rule against you.

There are no certainties in life but death and taxes. Have you considered an alternative win-win solution for all concerned? I don’t mean to burst your bubble but don’t get too cocky.